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Managing Conflict: Opportunities or Deal Breakers?

Margaret — Wed, 01 Sep 2021 19:42:58 +0000

Managing Conflict: Opportunities or Deal Breakers? By Dr. Margaret Paul March 29, 2021

How do you handle differences in your relationships? Do you fight or do you learn?

If you are in a relationship, do you get into conflicts over your differences? If you are not in a relationship, are you looking . . . → Read More: Managing Conflict: Opportunities or Deal Breakers?

Does Another’s Wounded Self Trigger Your Wounded Self?

Margaret — Mon, 28 Sep 2020 21:13:18 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul September 28, 2020

Do you disconnect in the face of others’ disconnection? Do you get angry in the face of others’ anger? Discover how to stay connected with yourself. Jenna was angry that she kept getting triggered into her wounded self when her husband, Seth, was in his wounded . . . → Read More: Does Another’s Wounded Self Trigger Your Wounded Self?

You Don’t Really Know Someone Until You Have Conflict

Margaret — Mon, 08 Jun 2020 22:09:51 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul June 08, 2020

Do you sometimes wonder if you really know the person you are dating?

People often ask me how they can know whether or not someone they are dating is really an open and caring person.

“He seems open and caring, but how can I . . . → Read More: You Don’t Really Know Someone Until You Have Conflict

Anger And Other Forms of Control

Margaret — Mon, 09 Feb 2015 18:29:14 +0000

If you grew up in a family where one or both parents used anger to control you, then anger likely plays a role in your life now.

Did you grow up with anger in your household? Did one or both of your parents use anger as a way to keep you in line . . . → Read More: Anger And Other Forms of Control

How Not To Have A Wonderful Celebration

Margaret — Mon, 29 Sep 2014 03:25:16 +0000

The control-resist system guarantees you won’t have a wonderful anything.

Adriann and Chandler are a sweet, successful couple in their early thirties. In spite of loving each other deeply, they often find themselves in conflict over seemingly minor issues, as most couples do. Recently, just one week before their 4th anniversary, they had a . . . → Read More: How Not To Have A Wonderful Celebration

Staying Centered in Conflict

Margaret — Mon, 11 Feb 2013 18:34:39 +0000

Are you conflict-avoidant? Does conflict terrify you? Discover how to heal this.

Angela writes:

“I avoid conflict as much as possible because I cannot handle the anxiety it produces in me, as if I am going to die, even when I am in the presence of other people that are in conflict. I . . . → Read More: Staying Centered in Conflict

The Challenge of Conflict

Margaret — Tue, 25 Dec 2012 03:24:00 +0000

Do you try to control during conflict, or are you conflict avoidant? Neither works well to resolve conflict. Discover what does work!

Leslie asks:

“When I approach my partner to address an issue, he only sees me as controlling and creating ‘controversy’. He can barely stand in the room for more than a . . . → Read More: The Challenge of Conflict

The Challenge of Accepting Our Helplessness Over Others

Margaret — Mon, 26 Sep 2011 13:19:49 +0000

What do you do when you feel helpless over another’s choices? What is the result? Are you happy with how you manage this feeling?

Helplessness is a very difficult feeling. It can even feel like life or death to those of us who were left to cry for hours as babies, with no one . . . → Read More: The Challenge of Accepting Our Helplessness Over Others

The Color of Conflict

Margaret — Sun, 26 Jun 2011 12:53:30 +0000

This 1 minute inspirational video can remind you of the opportunities to learn that are inherent in all conflict.

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a best-selling author of 8 books, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® process – featured on Oprah, and recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette. . . . → Read More: The Color of Conflict

Speaking Your Truth When it’s Hard

Margaret — Mon, 09 Aug 2010 18:55:51 +0000

How often to you withhold your truth from someone important to you because you are afraid of their anger? Discover what caring about yourself looks like in this situation. . . . → Read More: Speaking Your Truth When it’s Hard