Dr. Margaret Paul » conflict resolution

You Don’t Really Know Someone Until You Have Conflict

Margaret — Mon, 08 Jun 2020 22:09:51 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul June 08, 2020

Do you sometimes wonder if you really know the person you are dating?

People often ask me how they can know whether or not someone they are dating is really an open and caring person.

“He seems open and caring, but how can I . . . → Read More: You Don’t Really Know Someone Until You Have Conflict

Anger And Other Forms of Control

Margaret — Mon, 09 Feb 2015 18:29:14 +0000

If you grew up in a family where one or both parents used anger to control you, then anger likely plays a role in your life now.

Did you grow up with anger in your household? Did one or both of your parents use anger as a way to keep you in line . . . → Read More: Anger And Other Forms of Control

How Not To Have A Wonderful Celebration

Margaret — Mon, 29 Sep 2014 03:25:16 +0000

The control-resist system guarantees you won’t have a wonderful anything.

Adriann and Chandler are a sweet, successful couple in their early thirties. In spite of loving each other deeply, they often find themselves in conflict over seemingly minor issues, as most couples do. Recently, just one week before their 4th anniversary, they had a . . . → Read More: How Not To Have A Wonderful Celebration

Do You Remember What You Say When You are Enraged?

Margaret — Mon, 28 Jul 2014 19:42:28 +0000

Discover why any kind of engaging when someone is angry is a waste of energy.

“Rage can…shut off the hippocampus [linked to memory], and people with out-of-control anger may not be lying when they say they don’t recall what they said or did in that altered state of mind.” Mindsight, P.155 Daniel Siegel, M.D.

Have . . . → Read More: Do You Remember What You Say When You are Enraged?

The Challenge of Conflict

Margaret — Tue, 25 Dec 2012 03:24:00 +0000

Do you try to control during conflict, or are you conflict avoidant? Neither works well to resolve conflict. Discover what does work!

Leslie asks:

“When I approach my partner to address an issue, he only sees me as controlling and creating ‘controversy’. He can barely stand in the room for more than a . . . → Read More: The Challenge of Conflict

Stop Escalating Conflict!

Margaret — Mon, 06 Aug 2012 19:31:18 +0000

Do you get into fights that turn ugly as the conflict escalates? Discover how to stop doing this.

A participant in one of my webinars asked: “Is there any way to resolve conflict if you have two ‘escalating’ personalities trying to solve a problem? In other words, how do you resolve conflict between . . . → Read More: Stop Escalating Conflict!

What to do When You Can’t Communicate

Margaret — Sat, 09 Jul 2011 23:09:22 +0000

What do you usually do when you get stuck with someone and can’t communicate?

Do you:

Try harder to get your point across, talking louder or faster? Get angry, shouting to intimidate the other person into hearing you and/or agreeing with you? Cry in frustration? Feel resigned, give in and just listen quietly to . . . → Read More: What to do When You Can’t Communicate

The Color of Conflict

Margaret — Sun, 26 Jun 2011 12:53:30 +0000

This 1 minute inspirational video can remind you of the opportunities to learn that are inherent in all conflict.

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a best-selling author of 8 books, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® process – featured on Oprah, and recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette. . . . → Read More: The Color of Conflict

Relationships: Do You Have the Same Conflicts Over and Over?

Margaret — Mon, 04 Apr 2011 12:54:57 +0000

Kari and Rudy consulted with me because they kept having conflicts over the same issues over and over – primarily money, chores, and child-rearing. They were nearing the decision to separate, believing that they were incompatible.

I asked them to pick one of the issues and they picked a recent conflict regarding setting limits . . . → Read More: Relationships: Do You Have the Same Conflicts Over and Over?

Relationships: “I’m Open, You’re Closed”

Margaret — Sun, 10 Oct 2010 20:47:27 +0000

Are you in a relationship where you believe that you are open and your partner is closed? Read on! . . . → Read More: Relationships: “I’m Open, You’re Closed”