Dr. Margaret Paul » caretaking

“How Can I Know When I’m Caring And When I’m Caretaking?”

Margaret — Mon, 15 Dec 2014 09:31:04 +0000

Knowing the difference between caring and caretaking can sometimes be confusing. Discover how to tell the difference.

Have you sometimes wondered how to know the difference between caring and caretaking? This is the question that Arielle is asking:

“I’m mindful of my over-giving tendency. But often I don’t realize I’m caretaking until . . . → Read More: “How Can I Know When I’m Caring And When I’m Caretaking?”

Do You Have The Courage to Be a Loving Parent?

Margaret — Wed, 03 Sep 2014 01:15:59 +0000

Do you have the courage to risk loving yourself – even when you might encounter your children’s uncaring behavior?

Most of us really don’t like it when someone is angry with us. We don’t like it when someone goes into resistance to helping us when we need help, instead of caring about us. We . . . → Read More: Do You Have The Courage to Be a Loving Parent?

Making Peace With Lost Time

Margaret — Wed, 04 Jun 2014 01:33:05 +0000

Do you sometimes look back and feel as if you have wasted your life caretaking others or trying to get others to take care of you?

Very often, in my work with my clients and with people who attend my workshops and Intensives, once they understand that they have been abandoning themselves, they feel . . . → Read More: Making Peace With Lost Time

Is There Such A Thing As Healthy Caretaking?

Margaret — Tue, 29 May 2012 18:43:57 +0000

A client of mine asked, “Is there such a thing as healthy caretaking?” Here is the answer!

I was trained by my mother and grandmother to be a caretaker. The messages were: “Your feelings are not important to us at all. You need to learn to completely ignore your own feelings and instead take . . . → Read More: Is There Such A Thing As Healthy Caretaking?

Caretaking: A Covert Form of Narcissism

Margaret — Mon, 10 Oct 2011 16:57:19 +0000

Caretaking is NOT the opposite of narcissism!

I used to think that caretaking was the opposite of narcissism. I thought that narcissists were people who demanded that others give themselves up to care-take the narcissist. I thought that caretakers were people who were programmed to take care of others instead of themselves. I thought . . . → Read More: Caretaking: A Covert Form of Narcissism

Are You or Your Partner Possessive?

Margaret — Sun, 07 Aug 2011 01:18:16 +0000

“I freak out when my husband even looks at another woman. I trust him not to wander, so I don’t know why this upsets me so much.””My partner spends too much time with her friends and family. What’s the point of being together if she’s always gone a couple of nights a week?”

“My . . . → Read More: Are You or Your Partner Possessive?

Are You Caring or Caretaking?

Margaret — Mon, 14 Jun 2010 11:51:12 +0000

Do you sometimes give to another and then wonder why your giving is so unappreciated? Discover how much your intent affects the interaction. . . . → Read More: Are You Caring or Caretaking?

“Why Are My Partners Always Needy?”

Margaret — Sat, 29 May 2010 20:50:16 +0000

If you have the experience of always meeting needy or controlling people, it is likely because you are also needy and controlling and don't realize it. . . . → Read More: “Why Are My Partners Always Needy?”