Dr. Margaret Paul » Addictions

Judging Yourself Can Lead To Sexual Addiction

Margaret — Mon, 04 Mar 2019 19:48:02 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul March 04, 2019

Discover how self-abandonment can lead to using and objectifying others sexually.

Nicholas consulted with me because of problems he was having in his marriage. He was very distressed that his wife, Kayla, never wanted to have sex with him.

In the course of our work, it . . . → Read More: Judging Yourself Can Lead To Sexual Addiction

Are You Addicted to the Past?

Margaret — Thu, 23 Oct 2014 23:26:56 +0000

Are you using the past to avoid feeling some current painful feelings?

I could see immediately, in the third Skype session I was having with Vicky, that she was feeling very sad.

“Vicky, what are you so sad about?”

“Since I’ve been learning Inner Bonding, I keep looking back and feeling so sad about . . . → Read More: Are You Addicted to the Past?

Are You Addicted to the Internet?

Margaret — Tue, 24 Sep 2013 04:26:07 +0000

Do you get addictively stuck on the Internet and can’t seem to find your way out?

Our society provides many ways we can avoid our feelings addictively. Many people today are addicted to being on the Internet as one way of avoiding feeling an underlying pain that they believe they cannot manage feeling. . . . → Read More: Are You Addicted to the Internet?

What Does It Mean To Be Love Addicted?

Margaret — Mon, 03 Jun 2013 21:16:37 +0000

Our culture seems to promote love addiction to such an extent that it seems like a healthy way to relate. While it is very common, it is anything but healthy. Because it is so prevalent, many people don’t realize they are love addicted.

Henry asks:

“Is love addiction like when I see a friendly . . . → Read More: What Does It Mean To Be Love Addicted?

Addiction to Getting Others To Change

Margaret — Mon, 25 Mar 2013 22:50:18 +0000

Are you focusing on getting your partner to change to avoid a painful choice that you might need to make?

If you find yourself often focused on healing others or hoping you can get others to change, it is likely that you don’t think of this as an addiction. I define an addiction . . . → Read More: Addiction to Getting Others To Change

Addiction To Getting Things Done

Margaret — Mon, 21 Jan 2013 17:21:13 +0000

Discover when getting things done is healthy, and when it is unhealthy and obsessive.

There are many addictive ways that most of us have learned to avoid our painful feelings, and focusing on getting things done is often one of these ways.

It’s not that there is anything wrong with getting things done. . . . → Read More: Addiction To Getting Things Done

Letting Go Of A Sugar Addiction

Margaret — Mon, 05 Nov 2012 23:00:10 +0000

Have you tried unsuccessfully to heal a sugar addiction? Here’s how!

Are you sugar addicted? You are not alone!

I used to be intensely sugar addicted. I craved it all the time, and it seems like the more I ate, the more I wanted it. The fact that it made me feel terrible – . . . → Read More: Letting Go Of A Sugar Addiction

Addicted to Porn?

Margaret — Mon, 15 Oct 2012 18:45:38 +0000

Are you addicted to porn and not feeling good about it? Discover the likely underlying cause and what to do about it.

I received the following question when I was conducting a webinar on sexual addiction:

“I have had a pornography addiction since I was a teenager. I am now in my mid . . . → Read More: Addicted to Porn?

How do you Make Others Responsible for Your Painful Feelings?

Margaret — Sat, 10 Dec 2011 17:09:52 +0000

We have all learned many ways of trying to avoid or get rid of our painful feelings. Many of these ways are fairly obvious: addictions to substances and activities, staying in your mind rather than in your body, or judging yourself.

Another major way we avoid or try to get rid of our . . . → Read More: How do you Make Others Responsible for Your Painful Feelings?

Press Release: SelfQuest® Self Healing CD: Healing from Anxiety, Depression, Guilt, Shame, and Relationship Conflict

Margaret — Wed, 04 Aug 2010 18:21:10 +0000

Just released! See the Press Release about SelfQuest®!

After 12 years in development, bestselling authors Dr. Margaret Paul and Dr. Erika Chopich released a software program that helps people heal. Called a ‘psychologist in a software program’ SelfQuest is a self healing CD to help you find joy, fulfillment, and loving . . . → Read More: Press Release: SelfQuest® Self Healing CD: Healing from Anxiety, Depression, Guilt, Shame, and Relationship Conflict