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Triggers: Acting Out or Acting In

Margaret — Mon, 24 Aug 2020 20:20:53 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul August 24, 2020

What do you do when a person or situation triggers your stress response?

Most of us have at one time or another been ‘triggered.’ A trigger is an event, situation or interaction with a person or group of people that activates the fight, flight or freeze stress . . . → Read More: Triggers: Acting Out or Acting In

Anger And Other Forms of Control

Margaret — Mon, 09 Feb 2015 18:29:14 +0000

If you grew up in a family where one or both parents used anger to control you, then anger likely plays a role in your life now.

Did you grow up with anger in your household? Did one or both of your parents use anger as a way to keep you in line . . . → Read More: Anger And Other Forms of Control

Why Relationships Fail

Margaret — Wed, 20 Nov 2013 05:15:04 +0000

Discover the major cause of relationship failure and what to do about it.

Most people, when asked if they want a loving relationship, will say that having a loving relationship is one of the two most important things to them – along with having work they love.

Why, then, do so many relationships fail?

. . . → Read More: Why Relationships Fail

“If You Really Loved Me, You Wouldn’t…”

Margaret — Tue, 16 Aug 2011 12:05:53 +0000

How often have you had the thought, “If you really loved me, you wouldn’t…

Get angry, yell, curse, call names, say mean, untrue things about me Project your behavior onto me Withdraw, run away, shut down, sit spaced-out in front of the TV Resist doing what I ask you to do Look at other . . . → Read More: “If You Really Loved Me, You Wouldn’t…”

Are You and Your Partner Hurting Each Other?

Margaret — Mon, 07 Mar 2011 18:02:38 +0000

You and your partner might be hurting each other without realizing how and why you are doing this.

Are you aware of how you may be hurting your partner?

Are you aware of how your partner may be hurting you?

Are you aware of the painful feelings of loneliness, heartache and heartbreak you likely . . . → Read More: Are You and Your Partner Hurting Each Other?

When Should You Take It Personally?

Margaret — Mon, 03 Jan 2011 15:42:25 +0000

We hear so often, “Don’t take it personally.” What does this really mean? The answer is NOT simple!

Let’s say that you are in a great mood, feeling loving and expansive, and someone – either someone close to you or a stranger like a clerk in a store – is withdrawn or attacking.

. . . → Read More: When Should You Take It Personally?

Relationships: “I’m Open, You’re Closed”

Margaret — Sun, 10 Oct 2010 20:47:27 +0000

Are you in a relationship where you believe that you are open and your partner is closed? Read on! . . . → Read More: Relationships: “I’m Open, You’re Closed”

The Relationship Trap: “Let’s Talk”

Margaret — Mon, 24 May 2010 17:06:43 +0000

Do you sometimes feel trapped, knowing that your partner is going to blame you, when your partner says "Let's Talk"? Do you give in or get angry and withdraw because you don't know what else to do? . . . → Read More: The Relationship Trap: “Let’s Talk”