Dr. Margaret Paul » self-judgment

“Why Am I Procrastinating?”

Margaret — Mon, 15 Feb 2021 22:29:11 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul February 15, 2021

Discover what might be causing you to be stuck in your life – to procrastinate even around work that you love and want to do.

Fran asked me the following question:

“I am a Ph.D. student and I have chosen my profession because I like . . . → Read More: “Why Am I Procrastinating?”

Relationships: “Why am I Struggling After All My Healing?”

Margaret — Tue, 24 Nov 2020 00:44:45 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul November 23, 2020

Do you believe that, because you may have already done a lot of healing work, your relationship should be easier?

I can’t tell you how often I hear from my clients that “I should be further along in my healing process,” especially when it comes to relationships.

Are You Resistant To Loving Yourself?

Margaret — Mon, 14 Sep 2020 20:42:26 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul September 14, 2020

Do you want to love your inner child when you are in pain, or do you reject and abandon yourself in the face of your painful feelings?

Lauren, a client of mine, has been practicing Inner Bonding for a number of years but she was . . . → Read More: Are You Resistant To Loving Yourself?

Are You Hiding a Secret?

Margaret — Mon, 17 Feb 2020 23:34:02 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul February 17, 2020

Are there aspects of yourself you are so ashamed of that you’ve never revealed them to anyone? Or even hidden them from yourself? This may keep you stuck.

In my work with my clients, I’ve often wondered why some people jump right into . . . → Read More: Are You Hiding a Secret?

Releasing Pain – Essential for Physical and Emotional Health

Margaret — Mon, 27 Jan 2020 20:09:48 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul January 27, 2020

Pain that is stuck in your body can cause many physical and emotional problems, and blocks out the enlivening flow of love, peace and joy – the flow of Spirit.

Growing up, all of us had pain from the loneliness, grief, helplessness and heartbreak . . . → Read More: Releasing Pain – Essential for Physical and Emotional Health

Choosing to be a Loving Adult

Margaret — Tue, 14 Jan 2020 15:53:08 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul January 14, 2020

Kevin shares his inner battle that led to him to choose to be a loving adult.

Some years back, I had the moving experience of working with Kevin (not his real name), a thirty-seven year old very talented branding artist we had hired to work . . . → Read More: Choosing to be a Loving Adult

How to Move Out of Your Ego Wounded Self

Margaret — Mon, 18 Nov 2019 23:39:16 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul

November 18, 2019

If you sometimes get stuck in your wounded self and can’t see how to get back into your loving adult, here are some ideas that may help you.

Sometimes, when we get stuck in our wounded self, it is hard to wind our way . . . → Read More: How to Move Out of Your Ego Wounded Self

What’s Loving to Yourself – and What Isn’t?

Margaret — Tue, 28 May 2019 17:25:21 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul May 28, 2019

Loving actions are often the opposite of actions that are self-abandoning.

Discovering the loving action toward ourselves in a particular situation – Step 4 of Inner Bonding – is a wonderful and creative process. However, since we have so few role models for loving action toward ourselves, . . . → Read More: What’s Loving to Yourself – and What Isn’t?

Judging Yourself Can Lead To Sexual Addiction

Margaret — Mon, 04 Mar 2019 19:48:02 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul March 04, 2019

Discover how self-abandonment can lead to using and objectifying others sexually.

Nicholas consulted with me because of problems he was having in his marriage. He was very distressed that his wife, Kayla, never wanted to have sex with him.

In the course of our work, it . . . → Read More: Judging Yourself Can Lead To Sexual Addiction

Is Your Caretaking Covering Up Your Heartbreak?

Margaret — Mon, 25 Feb 2019 20:16:07 +0000

Are you giving yourself up to avoid feeling the heartache and heartbreak of others’ unloving behavior toward you?

Jenny grew up with a narcissistic mother who was incessantly demanding attention and demanding to have her way. Her mother would get furious when her husband or children didn’t do what she wanted them to . . . → Read More: Is Your Caretaking Covering Up Your Heartbreak?