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Relationships: “Why am I Struggling After All My Healing?”

Margaret — Tue, 24 Nov 2020 00:44:45 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul November 23, 2020

Do you believe that, because you may have already done a lot of healing work, your relationship should be easier?

I can’t tell you how often I hear from my clients that “I should be further along in my healing process,” especially when it comes to relationships.

The Magic of Kindness

Margaret — Mon, 06 Jul 2020 23:03:04 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul July 06, 2020

Kindness is magical regarding your own happiness!

“Kindness can become its own motive. We are made kind by being kind.” Eric Hoffer, 1902-1983, Author

Have you ever noticed that when you act kind, you feel kind? People often believe that they need to feel kind and compassionate before they . . . → Read More: The Magic of Kindness

Loving Yourself Means Turning the Other Cheek

Margaret — Thu, 05 Oct 2017 13:54:09 +0000

Turning the other cheek can mean different things to different people. Discover a meaning that you might not have previously considered. . . . → Read More: Loving Yourself Means Turning the Other Cheek

Self-Love In The Face Of Betrayal

Margaret — Thu, 05 Oct 2017 13:48:19 +0000

Have you felt betrayed? Learn how to love yourself through this extremely challenging experience. . . . → Read More: Self-Love In The Face Of Betrayal

“When Someone’s Behavior Affects Me, What Can I Do?”

Margaret — Mon, 09 Mar 2015 17:04:30 +0000

When someone’s behavior is affecting you, what can you do, other than blame them?

We Are Not Separate

Some authors suggest that, when we are healthy enough, we will not be affected by others‘ unloving verbal behavior. We will rise above it and not take their words personally – that “Sticks and stones . . . → Read More: “When Someone’s Behavior Affects Me, What Can I Do?”

Can We Run Out Of Love?

Margaret — Fri, 13 Jun 2014 00:52:35 +0000

Is your experience of love that it is scarce and limited?

“Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Love never decreases by being shared. ~Chinese Proverb

There seems to be a myth that love is scarce – that there is only . . . → Read More: Can We Run Out Of Love?

Staying Centered in Conflict

Margaret — Mon, 11 Feb 2013 18:34:39 +0000

Are you conflict-avoidant? Does conflict terrify you? Discover how to heal this.

Angela writes:

“I avoid conflict as much as possible because I cannot handle the anxiety it produces in me, as if I am going to die, even when I am in the presence of other people that are in conflict. I . . . → Read More: Staying Centered in Conflict

3 Steps to Healing from Betrayal

Margaret — Mon, 20 Aug 2012 19:09:31 +0000

Betrayal is one of the hardest things to go through, and it is vitally important that you deal with it in a way that doesn’t cause you even more pain.

It is devastating when someone whom we believe cares about us betrays us – lies, cheats, breaks a sacred promise, hurts us behind . . . → Read More: 3 Steps to Healing from Betrayal

“I’m Consumed With My Ex.”

Margaret — Mon, 30 Jul 2012 17:25:05 +0000

Discover why you might be obsessing about an ex and how to stop.

“How do I stop allowing my ex to consume my thoughts?” asks Tammy.

“Is your ex consuming your thoughts, or are you consumed with your ex?” I ask.

“What’s the difference?” Tammy asks.

“The difference is that you are asking . . . → Read More: “I’m Consumed With My Ex.”

9 Secrets For A Joyful Life

Margaret — Mon, 16 Jul 2012 18:52:59 +0000

Joy is our birthright – a gift of Spirit. Discover the choices you can make to lead a joyful life.

1. Self-Compassion Rather Than Self-Judgment

In the 44 years I’ve been counseling clients, I’ve never had a client who was not judging themselves—and not realizing the profound negative effects of self-judgment. Most are . . . → Read More: 9 Secrets For A Joyful Life