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What It Means To Be Emotionally Strong

Margaret — Mon, 04 May 2020 14:10:39 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul May 04, 2020

There is a vast difference between the pseudo-strength of controlling behavior and the actual strength of loving behavior.

“My father was a very strong man. It was his way or the highway.” “My mother is a very strong person. She is the matriarch of the . . . → Read More: What It Means To Be Emotionally Strong

Self-Care: Are You Resistant to Health and Fitness?

Margaret — Mon, 24 Nov 2014 21:40:10 +0000

Do you find yourself resisting or procrastinating taking loving care of yourself Of course you want to be healthy and fit! Who doesn’t? But are you always motivated and willing to do what you need to do to create health and fitness? Are you motivated to:

Regularly do the workout or exercise your body . . . → Read More: Self-Care: Are You Resistant to Health and Fitness?

What Does It Mean To Love Yourself?

Margaret — Mon, 15 Apr 2013 15:06:10 +0000

Many of us know that we need to be loving to ourselves, but what does this actually mean?

Since most of us had little or no role modeling regarding loving ourselves when we were growing up, it’s often challenging to know what loving ourselves looks like. It’s through my work with my inner . . . → Read More: What Does It Mean To Love Yourself?

Staying Centered in Conflict

Margaret — Mon, 11 Feb 2013 18:34:39 +0000

Are you conflict-avoidant? Does conflict terrify you? Discover how to heal this.

Angela writes:

“I avoid conflict as much as possible because I cannot handle the anxiety it produces in me, as if I am going to die, even when I am in the presence of other people that are in conflict. I . . . → Read More: Staying Centered in Conflict

Is There Such A Thing As Healthy Caretaking?

Margaret — Tue, 29 May 2012 18:43:57 +0000

A client of mine asked, “Is there such a thing as healthy caretaking?” Here is the answer!

I was trained by my mother and grandmother to be a caretaker. The messages were: “Your feelings are not important to us at all. You need to learn to completely ignore your own feelings and instead take . . . → Read More: Is There Such A Thing As Healthy Caretaking?

Does Niceness Get A Closed Person Open?

Margaret — Sun, 20 May 2012 21:18:27 +0000

Were you taught that if you were nice others would be nice?

“I had this really terrible interaction on the phone with a customer on Tuesday,” Carlton told me in our Skype session. “This guy was so closed and controlling. He just kept yelling about what he wanted me to do. I was being . . . → Read More: Does Niceness Get A Closed Person Open?

Burned by Coffee or Burned by Heartbreak – They Feel the Same

Margaret — Sat, 20 Aug 2011 15:50:30 +0000

“Science has finally confirmed what anyone who’s ever been in love already knows: Heartbreak really does hurt.” http://www.cnn.com/2011/HEALTH/03/28/burn.heartbreak.same.to.brain/index.html

“In a new study using functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI), researchers have found that the same brain networks that are activated when you’re burned by hot coffee also light up when you think about a lover . . . → Read More: Burned by Coffee or Burned by Heartbreak – They Feel the Same