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Relationships: “Why am I Struggling After All My Healing?”

Margaret — Tue, 24 Nov 2020 00:44:45 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul November 23, 2020

Do you believe that, because you may have already done a lot of healing work, your relationship should be easier?

I can’t tell you how often I hear from my clients that “I should be further along in my healing process,” especially when it comes to relationships.

Healing the Lack of Loving Holding and Touch

Margaret — Mon, 12 Oct 2020 22:20:06 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul October 12, 2020

If you were not lovingly held as a baby or toddler, you may need to do some healing work in this area.

Were you deprived of comforting holding as a child? I was. I was held by my mother, but the energy of her touch . . . → Read More: Healing the Lack of Loving Holding and Touch

“How Can I Know When I’m Caring And When I’m Caretaking?”

Margaret — Mon, 15 Dec 2014 09:31:04 +0000

Knowing the difference between caring and caretaking can sometimes be confusing. Discover how to tell the difference.

Have you sometimes wondered how to know the difference between caring and caretaking? This is the question that Arielle is asking:

“I’m mindful of my over-giving tendency. But often I don’t realize I’m caretaking until . . . → Read More: “How Can I Know When I’m Caring And When I’m Caretaking?”

Friendship: Connection or Neediness?

Margaret — Tue, 22 Apr 2014 05:16:19 +0000

Do you have problems having truly connected friendships?

Friendship is a big topic. There are people who always seem to have many friends, and others who can’t seem to find the way to make friends. Some people have deeply connected friendships, and others have only superficial acquaintances. What accounts for these differences?

A part . . . → Read More: Friendship: Connection or Neediness?

Are You Hard On Yourself? 9 Reasons to Love Yourself Instead

Margaret — Fri, 24 Jan 2014 04:20:39 +0000

If you are hard on yourself, do you believe that this is helpful to you? You might want to re-evaluate this false belief.

Are you hard on yourself? Do you think this is a good thing? Do you believe this motivates you to do better? Think again. If you are doing well, it’s . . . → Read More: Are You Hard On Yourself? 9 Reasons to Love Yourself Instead

First-Date Blues – What Can you Learn?

Margaret — Tue, 29 Oct 2013 20:35:57 +0000

Dating is challenging for many. Here are some tips to turn it into a learning adventure.

Sometimes, dating can be discouraging, or it can be a learning experience. One of the things I encourage my dating clients to do is to use their experience to hone their intuitive skills – starting from the first . . . → Read More: First-Date Blues – What Can you Learn?

“Divorced and Reconciled – But It’s Not Working”

Margaret — Wed, 10 Jul 2013 15:07:34 +0000

After reconciling with your partner, do you find yourself back in the same pattern?

Nancy wrote to me asking the following question:

“My husband and I were married for 15 years. Divorced. Reconciled after 9 months and re-married. I am having second thoughts about the reconciliation and I’ve become introverted with no desire . . . → Read More: “Divorced and Reconciled – But It’s Not Working”

Getting Out of The Negative Relationship Cycle

Margaret — Tue, 28 May 2013 18:27:48 +0000

Should you leave a relationship that is stuck in a negative cycle? It is quite common for me to work with clients who are stuck in a dysfunctional relationship cycle. Sarah describes a common cycle that she wants to resolve:

“I am stuck in a two year uncommitted relationship. When he fears he is . . . → Read More: Getting Out of The Negative Relationship Cycle

“I Fall Too Hard In Love”

Margaret — Mon, 06 May 2013 18:37:14 +0000

Do you find yourself getting hurt over and over in relationships? Discover why.

Do you find yourself falling hard for someone and then ending up feeling rejected and not good enough when it ends? This is the problem that Sabrina is having:

“Why do I fall so hard for men? How can I . . . → Read More: “I Fall Too Hard In Love”

Challenges of The Dating Scene

Margaret — Mon, 25 Feb 2013 17:45:01 +0000

Dating provides many opportunities to learn and grow. Discover some of what you can learn that will be very valuable for you. Franklin writes:

“I am a 68 year old male who was married for 27 years and now divorced 15 years. I have fallen in love with a woman after only three months . . . → Read More: Challenges of The Dating Scene