Dr. Margaret Paul » loving behavior

When To Compromise…And When Not To Compromise

Margaret — Mon, 01 Dec 2014 21:59:31 +0000

Discover when compromise is healthy and when it’s self-abandoning.

Compromise! What does this word conjure up for you? Is it is a positive or negative word for you? Does it bring up a sense of loving resolution, or a sense of losing yourself and losing your integrity?

When you think about compromising, what are . . . → Read More: When To Compromise…And When Not To Compromise

Are You Confused About Boundaries in Relationships?

Margaret — Thu, 06 Mar 2014 21:51:30 +0000

Many people confuse boundaries – which are a way of taking loving care of yourself – with controlling behavior toward others.

Marilee told me in one of our early phone sessions: “I set a boundary. I told him that he couldn’t speak to me that way any more.”

Jackson said to me in one . . . → Read More: Are You Confused About Boundaries in Relationships?

“Why Do I Feel Shame When I’m Being Blamed?”

Margaret — Tue, 27 Aug 2013 18:20:41 +0000

What’s really happening when someone blames and shames you? If you stopped taking it personally, what would you be feeling?

What do you generally do when someone blames you for his or her feelings? Do you find yourself taking it personally and blaming yourself? This is what Melinda struggles with:

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Change Your Life With This Simple Act

Margaret — Tue, 11 Jun 2013 06:08:04 +0000

Do you understand the power of kindness to change your life?

“Extend to each person, no matter how trivial the contact, all the care and kindness and understanding and love that you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again.” Og Mandino, 1923-1996, . . . → Read More: Change Your Life With This Simple Act

The Art of Manifestation: When It Is Loving to Be Controlling

Margaret — Mon, 13 Sep 2010 17:05:45 +0000

Is it ever loving to be controlling? Yes! Discover the kind of controlling that is loving and leads to manifesting what you want in life. . . . → Read More: The Art of Manifestation: When It Is Loving to Be Controlling

Controlling Behavior, Loving Behavior

Margaret — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 00:45:45 +0000

The underlying problem in most relationships is that both people are stuck in various forms of controlling behavior, yet neither person is consciously aware of trying to control. Find out how you may be trying to control, why you might want control, and what to do about it. . . . → Read More: Controlling Behavior, Loving Behavior