Dr. Margaret Paul » helplessness

Do You Remember What You Say When You are Enraged?

Margaret — Mon, 28 Jul 2014 19:42:28 +0000

Discover why any kind of engaging when someone is angry is a waste of energy.

“Rage can…shut off the hippocampus [linked to memory], and people with out-of-control anger may not be lying when they say they don’t recall what they said or did in that altered state of mind.” Mindsight, P.155 Daniel Siegel, M.D.

Have . . . → Read More: Do You Remember What You Say When You are Enraged?

The Way to Happiness

Margaret — Mon, 13 May 2013 17:49:45 +0000

Are you ready to discover the way to happiness? Are you ready to discover what Epictetus knew over 2000 years ago?

“There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.” ~Epictetus, AD 55-135

It’s hard for me to imagine that . . . → Read More: The Way to Happiness

“I Don’t Know How To Give Her What She Wants From Me.”

Margaret — Tue, 09 Oct 2012 00:50:52 +0000

Do you sometimes feel like you try to give your partner the connection he or she wants and can’t figure out how?

I was having a Skype session with Andrea and Lawrence. Married for 18 years with two teen-age children, their marriage was strained. When I asked Lawrence how things were going between . . . → Read More: “I Don’t Know How To Give Her What She Wants From Me.”

“It’s Not Fair!”

Margaret — Mon, 01 Oct 2012 22:24:22 +0000

Do you continue to believe, in the face of all evidence to the contrary, that life should be fair? Discover a new way of looking at fairness.

“Expecting the world to treat you fairly because you are a good person is a little like expecting the bull not to attack you because you . . . → Read More: “It’s Not Fair!”

“I’m Consumed With My Ex.”

Margaret — Mon, 30 Jul 2012 17:25:05 +0000

Discover why you might be obsessing about an ex and how to stop.

“How do I stop allowing my ex to consume my thoughts?” asks Tammy.

“Is your ex consuming your thoughts, or are you consumed with your ex?” I ask.

“What’s the difference?” Tammy asks.

“The difference is that you are asking . . . → Read More: “I’m Consumed With My Ex.”

The Challenge of Accepting Our Helplessness Over Others

Margaret — Mon, 26 Sep 2011 13:19:49 +0000

What do you do when you feel helpless over another’s choices? What is the result? Are you happy with how you manage this feeling?

Helplessness is a very difficult feeling. It can even feel like life or death to those of us who were left to cry for hours as babies, with no one . . . → Read More: The Challenge of Accepting Our Helplessness Over Others

Burned by Coffee or Burned by Heartbreak – They Feel the Same

Margaret — Sat, 20 Aug 2011 15:50:30 +0000

“Science has finally confirmed what anyone who’s ever been in love already knows: Heartbreak really does hurt.” http://www.cnn.com/2011/HEALTH/03/28/burn.heartbreak.same.to.brain/index.html

“In a new study using functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI), researchers have found that the same brain networks that are activated when you’re burned by hot coffee also light up when you think about a lover . . . → Read More: Burned by Coffee or Burned by Heartbreak – They Feel the Same

Taking the Risk of Loving

Margaret — Mon, 10 Jan 2011 18:26:27 +0000

“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid . . . → Read More: Taking the Risk of Loving

Do You Get Frustrated With Others?

Margaret — Wed, 14 Apr 2010 13:00:22 +0000

Do you believe that your frustration with others is being caused by them? Discover the real reason for frustration. . . . → Read More: Do You Get Frustrated With Others?