Dr. Margaret Paul » defensiveness

“How Can I Get Him To Stop Hurting Me?”

Margaret — Mon, 08 Apr 2013 16:48:21 +0000

Are you aware of the system you have created with your partner that may be causing you pain?

I have worked with couples for 44 years, and one thing I can tell you for sure: relationships are a system, and each partner has an equal part of the system. People come together at . . . → Read More: “How Can I Get Him To Stop Hurting Me?”

Do You Have The Courage to Learn About Yourself?

Margaret — Mon, 02 Jul 2012 22:22:47 +0000

Are you afraid to go deeper into personal growth and learning? Discover why this might be so and what you can do about it.

I’d had three phone sessions with Anika when I decided it was time to approach her about her intent. In my experience, she believed she was open to learning, . . . → Read More: Do You Have The Courage to Learn About Yourself?

The Myth of Explaining and Defending

Margaret — Fri, 06 May 2011 16:31:11 +0000

“What’s the matter with you?” “How could you do that?” “Explain yourself, young lady/young man.” “Why are you dressed like that?” “Why are you late again?” “What did you do to your hair!”

How often did you hear some variation of this when you were growing up? I heard it all the time. And . . . → Read More: The Myth of Explaining and Defending