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		<title>What is Enlightenment?</title>
		<link>http://margaretpaul.com/self-improvement-personal-growth/what-is-enlightenment</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 27 Jan 2012 17:35:13 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Margaret</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Self Improvement & Personal Growth]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Wayne Dyer offers us a simple yet profound definition of enlightenment – simple, but not easy. &#8220;If I could define enlightenment briefly I would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is.&#8221; &#8211; Dr. Wayne Dyer As simple as this definition seems to be, how often do you quietly accept what is? Instead, what [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Will Your Next Marriage be Better?</title>
		<link>http://margaretpaul.com/relationships/will-your-next-marriage-be-better</link>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 03 Dec 2011 17:54:56 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Margaret</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Relationships]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Self Improvement & Personal Growth]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[divorce]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Discover the surprising statistics about second and third marriages, and why they have such a poor success rate. “It’s time for me to move on. I’ve learned so much – I just know that next time it will be better.” “Our new relationship has a great chance, because we’ve both been married before and have [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Blaming Others Can Ruin Your Health</title>
		<link>http://margaretpaul.com/self-improvement-personal-growth/blaming-others-can-ruin-your-health</link>
		<comments>http://margaretpaul.com/self-improvement-personal-growth/blaming-others-can-ruin-your-health#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sun, 30 Oct 2011 22:24:10 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Margaret</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Self Improvement & Personal Growth]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Spiritual Growth]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[anger]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[being a victim]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[blame]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[compassion]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[resentment]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[This article on CNN Health &#8211; http://www.cnn.com/2011/HEALTH/08/17/bitter.resentful.ep/index.html?&#38;hpt=hp_c2- by Elizabeth Cohen, is very interesting, regarding the negative health effects of blame and resentment. &#8220;Feeling bitter interferes with the body&#8217;s hormonal and immune systems, according to Carsten Wrosch, an associate professor of psychology at Concordia University in Montreal&#8230;.&#8221; &#8220;The data that negative mental states cause heart problems [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Challenge of Accepting Our Helplessness Over Others</title>
		<link>http://margaretpaul.com/relationships/the-challenge-of-accepting-our-helplessness-over-others</link>
		<comments>http://margaretpaul.com/relationships/the-challenge-of-accepting-our-helplessness-over-others#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Mon, 26 Sep 2011 13:19:49 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Margaret</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Relationships]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Spiritual Growth]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[compassion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[conflict]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[controlling behavior]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[disconnection]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[heartbreak]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[helplessness]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Inner Bonding]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[inner child]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[loneliness]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[What do you do when you feel helpless over another&#8217;s choices? What is the result? Are you happy with how you manage this feeling? Helplessness is a very difficult feeling. It can even feel like life or death to those of us who were left to cry for hours as babies, with no one coming [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Life: Security or a Daring Adventure?</title>
		<link>http://margaretpaul.com/self-improvement-personal-growth/life-security-or-a-daring-adventure</link>
		<comments>http://margaretpaul.com/self-improvement-personal-growth/life-security-or-a-daring-adventure#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Mon, 19 Sep 2011 17:15:38 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Margaret</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Self Improvement & Personal Growth]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Spiritual Growth]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[A Course in Miracles]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[body and soul]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[controlling behavior]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[feeling safe]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Helen Keller]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[safety and security]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;Security is mostly superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing. To keep our faces toward change and behave like free spirits in the presence [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Why Do We Seek Approval?</title>
		<link>http://margaretpaul.com/self-improvement-personal-growth/why-do-we-seek-approval</link>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 03 Sep 2011 18:33:53 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Margaret</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Self Improvement & Personal Growth]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Spiritual Growth]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[addicted to approval]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[anxiety]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[approval addiction]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[love addiction]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[self-judgment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[wounded self]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://margaretpaul.com/?p=615</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[If you are addicted to seeking others&#8217; approval, this article is for you! Many years ago, I became aware of feeling anxious much of the time. Since this feeling had been with me as long as I could remember, it had seemed normal &#8211; until it stopped being okay with me. It stopped being okay [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Are You or Your Partner Possessive?</title>
		<link>http://margaretpaul.com/relationships/are-you-or-your-partner-possessive</link>
		<comments>http://margaretpaul.com/relationships/are-you-or-your-partner-possessive#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sun, 07 Aug 2011 01:18:16 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Margaret</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Relationships]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Self Improvement & Personal Growth]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[anxiety]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[caretaking]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[controlling behavior]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[I feel empty]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://margaretpaul.com/?p=591</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;I freak out when my husband even looks at another woman. I trust him not to wander, so I don&#8217;t know why this upsets me so much.&#8221;"My partner spends too much time with her friends and family. What&#8217;s the point of being together if she&#8217;s always gone a couple of nights a week?&#8221;&#160; &#8220;My wife [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Why Don&#8217;t You Speak Up For Yourself?</title>
		<link>http://margaretpaul.com/relationships/why-dont-you-speak-up-for-yourself</link>
		<comments>http://margaretpaul.com/relationships/why-dont-you-speak-up-for-yourself#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sun, 17 Jul 2011 13:13:19 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Margaret</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Relationships]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Self Improvement & Personal Growth]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[compliance]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[controlling behavior]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Inner Bonding]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Margaret Paul]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[nice guy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[relationship advice]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[speaking up for yourself]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://margaretpaul.com/?p=579</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[My counseling clients often complain to me about interactions they had with a partner, friend, parents or co-worker. When I asked the question, &#8220;Why didn&#8217;t you speak up for yourself?&#8221; here are the most common answers I receive: &#8220;I want to keep the peace.&#8221; &#8220;I don&#8217;t want to rock the boat.&#8221; &#8220;I didn&#8217;t know what [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Myth of Explaining and Defending</title>
		<link>http://margaretpaul.com/relationships/the-myth-of-explaining-and-defending</link>
		<comments>http://margaretpaul.com/relationships/the-myth-of-explaining-and-defending#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 06 May 2011 16:31:11 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Margaret</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Relationships]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[compliance]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[power struggle]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://margaretpaul.com/?p=519</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;What&#8217;s the matter with you?&#8221; &#8220;How could you do that?&#8221; &#8220;Explain yourself, young lady/young man.&#8221; &#8220;Why are you dressed like that?&#8221; &#8220;Why are you late again?&#8221; &#8220;What did you do to your hair!&#8221; How often did you hear some variation of this when you were growing up? I heard it all the time. And what [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Trying to Control Makes us Miserable</title>
		<link>http://margaretpaul.com/relationships/trying-to-control-makes-us-miserable</link>
		<comments>http://margaretpaul.com/relationships/trying-to-control-makes-us-miserable#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 15 Apr 2011 13:22:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Margaret</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Relationships]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[addicted to control]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[loving yourself]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Margaret Paul]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[self-judgment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[self-love]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://margaretpaul.com/?p=494</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Have you ever noticed how bad you feel when you try to control things you can&#8217;t control &#8211; such as others and outcomes? Larry consulted with me because he was often miserable &#8211; despite running a successful business, and having a lovely wife and two daughters, whom he adored. It soon became apparent that Larry [...]]]></description>
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