By Dr. Margaret Paul May 04, 2020

There is a vast difference between the pseudo-strength of controlling behavior and the actual strength of loving behavior.

“My father was a very strong man. It was his way or the highway.” “My mother is a very strong person. She is the matriarch of the . . . → Read More: What It Means To Be Emotionally Strong]]> http://margaretpaul.com/self-improvement-personal-growth/what-it-means-to-be-emotionally-strong/feed 0 http://margaretpaul.com/self-improvement-personal-growth/anger-and-other-forms-of-control http://margaretpaul.com/self-improvement-personal-growth/anger-and-other-forms-of-control#comments Mon, 09 Feb 2015 18:29:14 +0000 http://margaretpaul.com/?p=1563 If you grew up in a family where one or both parents used anger to control you, then anger likely plays a role in your life now.

Did you grow up with anger in your household? Did one or both of your parents use anger as a way to keep you in line . . . → Read More: Anger And Other Forms of Control]]> http://margaretpaul.com/self-improvement-personal-growth/anger-and-other-forms-of-control/feed 0 http://margaretpaul.com/relationships/why-relationships-fail http://margaretpaul.com/relationships/why-relationships-fail#comments Wed, 20 Nov 2013 05:15:04 +0000 http://margaretpaul.com/?p=1317 Discover the major cause of relationship failure and what to do about it.

Most people, when asked if they want a loving relationship, will say that having a loving relationship is one of the two most important things to them – along with having work they love.

Why, then, do so many relationships fail?

“I have never been able to conceive how any rational being could propose happiness to himself from the exercise of power over others.” – Thomas Jefferson

When your intent is to control others, are you . . . → Read More: Does Controlling Others Make You Feel Happy?]]> http://margaretpaul.com/self-improvement-personal-growth/does-controlling-others-make-you-feel-happy/feed 0 http://margaretpaul.com/relationships/why-dont-you-speak-up-for-yourself http://margaretpaul.com/relationships/why-dont-you-speak-up-for-yourself#comments Sun, 17 Jul 2011 13:13:19 +0000 http://margaretpaul.com/?p=579 My counseling clients often complain to me about interactions they had with a partner, friend, parents or co-worker. When I asked the question, “Why didn’t you speak up for yourself?” here are the most common answers I receive:

“I want to keep the peace.” “I don’t want to rock the boat.” “I didn’t know . . . → Read More: Why Don’t You Speak Up For Yourself?]]> http://margaretpaul.com/relationships/why-dont-you-speak-up-for-yourself/feed 0 http://margaretpaul.com/relationships/the-myth-of-explaining-and-defending http://margaretpaul.com/relationships/the-myth-of-explaining-and-defending#comments Fri, 06 May 2011 16:31:11 +0000 http://margaretpaul.com/?p=519 “What’s the matter with you?” “How could you do that?” “Explain yourself, young lady/young man.” “Why are you dressed like that?” “Why are you late again?” “What did you do to your hair!”

How often did you hear some variation of this when you were growing up? I heard it all the time. And . . . → Read More: The Myth of Explaining and Defending]]> http://margaretpaul.com/relationships/the-myth-of-explaining-and-defending/feed 0