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Are You Perpetuating a Controlling Relationship System?

Margaret — Mon, 14 Dec 2020 22:36:25 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul December 14, 2020

Do you wonder why you often have the same conflicts over and over? Discover what you are doing to perpetuate this.

For example, Sadie found herself in the same interaction over and over with her husband, Benjamin. The interaction would go something like this: Most . . . → Read More: Are You Perpetuating a Controlling Relationship System?

Staying Loving In The Face Of Others’ Unloving Behavior

Margaret — Tue, 27 Oct 2020 02:25:02 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul October 26, 2020

Discover what healing needs to occur within you before you can stop being reactive to others’ unloving behavior.

One of our greatest challenges in relationships is to not get triggered into self-abandonment when others are unloving – to stay connected with ourselves rather than getting . . . → Read More: Staying Loving In The Face Of Others’ Unloving Behavior

Does Another’s Wounded Self Trigger Your Wounded Self?

Margaret — Mon, 28 Sep 2020 21:13:18 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul September 28, 2020

Do you disconnect in the face of others’ disconnection? Do you get angry in the face of others’ anger? Discover how to stay connected with yourself. Jenna was angry that she kept getting triggered into her wounded self when her husband, Seth, was in his wounded . . . → Read More: Does Another’s Wounded Self Trigger Your Wounded Self?

What Do You Do When Someone Hurts You?

Margaret — Sun, 06 Sep 2020 17:21:03 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul September 06, 2020

When someone does something that scares or hurts you, do you lovingly manage your pain or do try to control them?

When I was a very young child, I quickly learned to jump out of myself whenever my mother was angry at me – which . . . → Read More: What Do You Do When Someone Hurts You?

“I Can’t Receive Love.”

Margaret — Mon, 17 Aug 2020 20:04:04 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul August 17, 2020

Do you have trouble giving and receiving love? You CAN heal this

Lindsay wrote during one of my webinars:

“I can’t receive love. Physically, not even a kiss or stroke of kindness. I was never told ‘you’re awesome, great job, you’re beautiful, you can do . . . → Read More: “I Can’t Receive Love.”

The Magic of Kindness

Margaret — Mon, 06 Jul 2020 23:03:04 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul July 06, 2020

Kindness is magical regarding your own happiness!

“Kindness can become its own motive. We are made kind by being kind.” Eric Hoffer, 1902-1983, Author

Have you ever noticed that when you act kind, you feel kind? People often believe that they need to feel kind and compassionate before they . . . → Read More: The Magic of Kindness

Obsessing, Ruminating, Worrying…Oh My!

Margaret — Mon, 05 Aug 2019 16:56:12 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul August 05, 2019

Are you ready to move beyond obsessive ruminating and worry? Are you ready to move beyond fear, anxiety and depression? What works for me can work for you too!

I used to spend hours and even days ruminating about different things – a conflict with . . . → Read More: Obsessing, Ruminating, Worrying…Oh My!

Accepting What You Can’t Control, Controlling What You Can

Margaret — Mon, 15 Apr 2019 14:01:52 +0000

Accepting What You Can’t Control, Controlling What You Can

By Dr. Margaret Paul April 15, 2019

Coming to grips with what you can and can’t control opens the door to true emotional freedom and personal power.

I frequently receive questions about what to do in situations where someone is behaving in an . . . → Read More: Accepting What You Can’t Control, Controlling What You Can

Judging Yourself Can Lead To Sexual Addiction

Margaret — Mon, 04 Mar 2019 19:48:02 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul March 04, 2019

Discover how self-abandonment can lead to using and objectifying others sexually.

Nicholas consulted with me because of problems he was having in his marriage. He was very distressed that his wife, Kayla, never wanted to have sex with him.

In the course of our work, it . . . → Read More: Judging Yourself Can Lead To Sexual Addiction

The Power of Being “Grokked”

Margaret — Mon, 11 Feb 2019 23:13:24 +0000

By Dr. Margaret Paul February 11, 2019

It is profoundly healing when another is able to deeply understand and empathize with our core painful feelings.

In 1961, author Robert A. Heinlein coined the term “grok” in his best-selling book, “Stranger in a Strange Land”.

The Oxford English Dictionary defines grok as “to . . . → Read More: The Power of Being “Grokked”